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How to Make Friends Online

2020.10.05

It is always good to be making more friends. University is probably THE best time in your life to make lifelong friends. At university, we have constant encounters in class and on campus with many people in our peer group. The people we connect with the most we can then easily spend more time with and deepen those relationships. Many of those close friends will be people who are with you all through your life.


Meeting people at university is natural and not that different from meeting people at high school but then there was COVID-19. Suddenly we must do it all online and the rules are a bit different and a bit harder. Here are some hints to help you.  


Send the right signals to others 

First, turn on your camera when you can and when it is appropriate. Most importantly, pay attention to your body language on camera. Smile and make eye contact by looking into the camera. Try to have a relaxed body posture. Ask yourself, “Do I seem approachable and friendly?” Offer greetings to others and ask questions when you can. 


Invite dialogue 

You need to actively follow and engage with others online. Share something of yourself FIRST and invite others with questions. Ask questions about others’ contributions and leave thoughtful comments that show you have read or heard someone’s post. Continue to do this even if you have a minimal response. It may take time, but people will respond. After any interaction thank the other person for talking to you and say how much you enjoyed their company.

 

Keep the conversation going 

Once you have made a connection in class with others you can make friends outside of class. Privately offer YOUR contact information to others you want to be friends with so you can talk outside of class. Don’t be too disappointed if someone doesn’t follow up. They are probably just busy, and your effort is still appreciated. If someone offers you their contact information, try to follow up soon even if it is just to say it was nice talking to them. 


You can be an organizer 

Sometimes everyone is waiting for someone to take the initiative. You can be the person. Everyone will be grateful to you. Arrange a study group online. Organize a movie-watching party on Zoom. Trade recommendations on school, shopping, food, etc. on other SNSs or by email. We may not be able to often meet in person, but we can still keep in contact.


Don’t give up 

It may be a little harder to make friends online than it is on campus, but don’t give up. Keep being friendly and open to interaction and you are sure to make friends that will continue once we are back to face-to-face classes. 


Photo Credit: Ivan Samkov @pexels.com 

 

 

Blog Quiz


1. According to the blog, why is it more difficult to make friends now?


A.    Because the social rules in university are different from high school.

B.    Because Coronavirus means we must interact online.

C.    Because people don't try to make friends anymore.

 

2. According to the blog, what does 'invite dialog' mean?

 

A.    Share information about yourself, ask questions and make comments.

B.    Organize a party.

C.    Arrange an online study group.

 

3. According to the blog, how can you keep a conversation going?

 

A.    Go to the pub.

B.    Ask for someone's phone number.

C.    Privately offer your own contact details.


 

Scroll down ↓ for the answers to the quiz.

 

 

 



 

 

 

 

Quiz Answers

 




1. B

2. A

3. C

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